Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Cor 13:4-8a
Which area in the above paragraph do you struggle with the most? Is there more than one area? I know for myself, there is more than one area. Although I try to be a good wife, I do fall short in many areas. I do try, but I am definitely not perfect!
One thing I do know is that love truly does not fail. Love to me means you are able to truly forgive the shortcomings, and move past them. I know, sometimes that is very hard to do; but holding onto the wrongs does nothing to the other person. However, it does a lot to YOU! It can cause bitterness and anger to grow in your heart. It can cause physical sickness. It can cause walls to build around your heart that no longer allows others to love you the way the Lord created you to be loved.
Trust me, I’ve been through some things in my marriage that were very hard to forgive; and it didn’t happen overnight. But, I knew that the only way I was going to get better, for my heart to heal, was for me to forgive the wrongdoings. I had to forgive completely! And I had to ask forgiveness, as well!
The first five years of our marriage were tough to say the least. There was things that happened that if I had not been willing to forgive, we would have been divorced a long time ago. But, as honest as I can be, I am so glad the Lord helped me to forgive my husband. The last several years of our marriage have been really good! Sure, we have issues, just like every other couple does. But, choosing to forgive and not hold onto those wrongdoings has made a huge difference in our relationship.
All I can say is true “love”, as hard as it may be sometimes, really does not fail. It builds strong marriages. It heals marriages. It restores brokenness. It heals the heart. It knocks down the walls. It can do so very much!
This Valentine’s Day, I would encourage you to spend some time in prayer and ask the Lord to show you areas where you are holding unforgiveness in your heart. Then ask Him to help you to totally forgive and move forward. I know He will, and I know He can! God loves you! He wants nothing but the best for you and your husband. You can trust that!
Each day, repeat the verses at the beginning of this blog post. In place of the word “love” enter the pronoun “I” instead. Example: I am kind. I am patient. I hold no wrongdoings. I do not easily anger…and so on. You can also pray these verses using your spouse’s name, as well. I promise you, it will begin to make a difference.
Take some time this Valentine’s weekend to share with your spouse how much you love them. Make sure to ask forgiveness for your own wrongdoings, as well as offering forgiveness. Pray with and for your spouse, asking God to restore what has been broken and for a new start. Let this Valentine’s Day 2020 be the turning point in your marriage! I would love to hear how God has healed your own marriage!
Until next time, Be Blessed!